In the film “The Adam Project” (2022), 12-year old Adam tells his older self:
“I think it is easier to be angry than it is to be sad. And I guess, when I get older, I forget that there’s a difference.”
Over the past couple of years, I have come to a few realisations when I have managed to cool off and do some introspection after an angry outburst.
I agree with Adam that it really is easier to be angry than it is to be sad.
And I think one of the reasons might be that anger doesn’t require so much vulnerability, as anger is an easy default.
Moreover, it is easier to apologise for being angry than to process the repercussions of sadness.
Anger pushes people away whilst sadness draws them closer. Being left on our own might be an easy way out, as some of us prefer to be alone when we are sad. It doesn’t take so much effort as having to deal with someone’s pity. Or even worse - their unsolicited advice on ‘how to get through this’.
However, being angry should never be a replacement for sadness. Moreover - while we practice being brave enough to be vulnerable, a few other things might happen: The better we get at experiencing hurt being transformed into sadness; the more significant the chances are that the world might just be a little less angry overall.